My husband, the love of my life, my guiding light, and my best friend passed away peacefully in his sleep on 11/1/22 at about 2:30 PM Central Daylight Time. It was calm and peaceful. It took a little over two hours, after they disconnected the bipap and feeding tube. There was just a morphine drip. There was a little green button that I had to press every time it lit up. I did this while holding my husband’s hand and talking to him. His breathing gradually became shallower and less. I told him while he didn’t need my permission to go, I was giving him permission to go. I told him not to worry about me and it was okay for him to go. About five minutes later, he took his last breath. It was peaceful. 

I know now that he’s in Heaven having a joyful reunion with family members and friends. I’m glad his suffering is done. He’s in a better place. I hope he watches over me. I’m relieved that he’s not suffering anymore, but feel great sorrow that he is gone. I don’t know how I’ll live without him, but I also know he’d want me to go on with my life. I will do just that. I’ll love him forever. I will honor his memory. When it is my time to die, I will be reunited with him. I will live my life with purpose until then.

Please keep me in your prayers. I’m not sure what tomorrow will bring. All I can do is to live my life and honor the memory of my husband.

(11-02-2022, 02:57 AM)ChiefD Wrote: My husband, the love of my life, my guiding light, and my best friend passed away peacefully in his sleep on 11/1/22 at about 2:30 PM Central Daylight Time. It was calm and peaceful. It took a little over two hours, after they disconnected the bipap and feeding tube. There was just a morphine drip. There was a little green button that I had to press every time it lit up. I did this while holding my husband’s hand and talking to him. His breathing gradually became shallower and less. I told him while he didn’t need my permission to go, I was giving him permission to go. I told him not to worry about me and it was okay for him to go. About five minutes later, he took his last breath. It was peaceful. 

I know now that he’s in Heaven having a joyful reunion with family members and friends. I’m glad his suffering is done. He’s in a better place. I hope he watches over me. I’m relieved that he’s not suffering anymore, but feel great sorrow that he is gone. I don’t know how I’ll live without him, but I also know he’d want me to go on with my life. I will do just that. I’ll love him forever. I will honor his memory. When it is my time to die, I will be reunited with him. I will live my life with purpose until then.

Please keep me in your prayers. I’m not sure what tomorrow will bring. All I can do is to live my life and honor the memory of my husband.

sad news, and i hate it for you. i remember back during the lock downs how bad it hurt you not to be able to be with him.
just know he's in a better place and always remember he loved you.

folks here at the nation will always be here for you if you need to talk or vent.

again i hate to hear this and you have my sincere condolences.

Try to find comfort in knowing that he is in a far better place than this world now. You are in my prayers! 

(11-02-2022, 02:57 AM)ChiefD Wrote: My husband, the love of my life, my guiding light, and my best friend passed away peacefully in his sleep on 11/1/22 at about 2:30 PM Central Daylight Time. It was calm and peaceful. It took a little over two hours, after they disconnected the bipap and feeding tube. There was just a morphine drip. There was a little green button that I had to press every time it lit up. I did this while holding my husband’s hand and talking to him. His breathing gradually became shallower and less. I told him while he didn’t need my permission to go, I was giving him permission to go. I told him not to worry about me and it was okay for him to go. About five minutes later, he took his last breath. It was peaceful. 

I know now that he’s in Heaven having a joyful reunion with family members and friends. I’m glad his suffering is done. He’s in a better place. I hope he watches over me. I’m relieved that he’s not suffering anymore, but feel great sorrow that he is gone. I don’t know how I’ll live without him, but I also know he’d want me to go on with my life. I will do just that. I’ll love him forever. I will honor his memory. When it is my time to die, I will be reunited with him. I will live my life with purpose until then.

Please keep me in your prayers. I’m not sure what tomorrow will bring. All I can do is to live my life and honor the memory of my husband.

Oh lord, I'm so sorry :( 

Anything you need just let us know. I have 2 shoulders here for anything, and can be available day or night. I'm so sorry and will be keeping you in my thoughts Chief. 

I am so very sorry for your loss.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Sorry for your loss, ChiefD.

I am deeply sorry for your loss.

I know it is a worn-out cliche to say that but what should i really say, to really comfort you? There are no such words.

We are here for you.

(11-02-2022, 04:12 AM)Finspiracy Wrote: I am deeply sorry for your loss.

I know it is a worn-out cliche to say that but what should i really say, to really comfort you? There are no such words.

We are here for you.

Finn has said the only thing that any of us can say.

I just got home from our weekly Bible study. We prayed for Ron to have a peaceful, and painless passing. We prayed for you. knowing how difficult living on while he journeyed forward is for you. One of the members of our group just turned 90 years old. She lost her husband of 76 years 2 years ago. She cried remembering her lost, and said a special prayer for you. Asking for strength, peace, love, and joy in knowing Ron is at peace and that you will be united again.

Take all the time you need. Grieving is a natural and very healthy.

As Finn reminded you, so shall I. We are here for you.

Oh no, I am so sorry for your loss, truly.
But am glad to know that he is no longer suffering. 

As the others have said, if there is anything that we can do, do not hesitate to ask.
We are here for you.


My thoughts and prayers are with you ChiefD
Stay strong....


Senona

I am without words.

Know that all of us are here caring for and supporting you in whatever ways we can be that through prayers or by keeping you in our thoughts with condolences and empathy for your loss and the changes that may come.

Take care, ChiefD. {{hugs}}

It is never easy for those who are left to mourn... If there is anything after this life he is surely in a better place.  Peace be with you

Oh no. Sad news!! I am so sorry for your loss.

As many have said already, we are here for you. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

Sorry for your loss, my thoughts are with you today.
Love sent.

Take care of yourself my dear.

The passing and evolution of a person who is a part of your heart, soul and entire life is always a difficult and painful time.

I am sure that you will always remember those beautiful moments that you spent together and also relish in those beautiful moments that you will continue to spend together as he is ALWAYS by your side.

My positive thoughts go out to you and your loved ones.

May I send you some Reiki?

Hugs n stuff.

Rod

Truly sorry for your loss.

Huge hugs for you ((((((chief)))))).

So sad to hear of your husband's passing.

Gx

Thank you all so much for the love and prayers! I spent a good part of my day on the phone. There were many calls to be made. I will be finalizing things at the funeral home Friday morning. My sister will be there with me. She and my other sister talked when I was on the phone. My sister is a teacher and had to get a sub, not an easy thing to do. But she did this, and I’m so appreciative. The funeral will be some time next week. It will take some time to do, as he’s receiving full military honors. He’s being cremated, and the urn will be buried at a veterans Cemetary. 

I also found out that I will lose Ron’s Social Security, because I’m 58. I can get it again when I turn 60. That will be a significant loss of income, so I will be going back to work part time. I can do that for a year and a half until I turn 60. When I turn 60, I can get his Social Security benefits and I start getting my military pension. So I just need to unretire and work a little to keep my house and pay my bills. I actually applied online for a couple of part time jobs. 

Between that and the phone calls, it kept me pretty busy until the evening, when I received a video call from an Army friend of mine who is a retired Sergeant First Class, and was a Ranger and sniper. He told me some hilarious stories and had me laughing so hard. He’s going to wear some of his insignia at the funeral. It’ll be good to see him. He knew Ron through his wife who works at WalMart. Ron worked at WalMart for many years. 

Now it’s quiet again, and this is when I struggle. No phone calls to make or take, and my work done for the day. Coming on here is a healing balm though. I feel so much love for you all. You are family. So much of my family has been a huge comfort as I go through all this stuff. I ate a little for breakfast and a little for dinner, so I should be okay. My stomach still feels wonky at times, and the nausea comes and goes. The weather has been beautiful here, so I’ve been taking walks, getting some fresh air and sunshine. 

Just trying to take it one day at a time. Thank you all. Love you all, my family.

I’m so glad that your sister will be there Friday so you won’t have to finalize everything alone. It’s good to have family with you.

You’re still in my prayers.

(11-02-2022, 02:57 AM)ChiefD Wrote: Please keep me in your prayers.

Peace be with you, Chief. My deepest condolences for your loss.