10-17-2022, 09:45 AM
Thank you for your words, Ninurta. I agree with what you have said. Unless things suddenly go sideways for me, I'm likely to outlive her other mom who is a good bit older than I am so it is great they are working things out and strengthening their bond. If I go first then she'll have her other mom for support which is a good thing.
I hadn't spoken to my dad since I was 13/14 and didn't even know where he was but just before my mom died when I was 25, she tracked him down and reconnected us which was a lot for him to take in because I was a bit different than he remembered (lol) but we maintained a relationship until it was his time to go. While some of the memories weren't always pleasant, having some sort of connection to my past meant a lot.
When my kid gets back, I'm sure the first thing she'll do is apologize for not telling me and making me worry but I will play it cool. Knowing her as I do, I'm also pretty sure she will feel bad enough for her oversight (or obfuscation) without me ragging about it.
As far as my ex old man buying me a new battery, I would feel bad because he's already doing so much. He turned the house we used to live in when we were married into an auto shop/parts warehouse full of tools and equipment then pretty much walked away from it all about 15 years ago when he got remarried and moved in with his new wife.
When things went south for me a while back, he cleaned out one room and made one of the bathrooms functional and let me move in there rather than be homeless. He even spent thousands of dollars putting a new heat pump/AC unit on the roof and paid off the $1200 court judgment against me when I was evicted. I've been living there among the clutter and machinery rent free for three years in January and I actually like it here. As destroyed as it is inside as houses go, all together I've lived in this house for 15 years and that's longer than I've ever lived anywhere so it feels like home. If he volunteers to pay for the battery I won't say no but I'm for sure not asking for him to.
I hadn't spoken to my dad since I was 13/14 and didn't even know where he was but just before my mom died when I was 25, she tracked him down and reconnected us which was a lot for him to take in because I was a bit different than he remembered (lol) but we maintained a relationship until it was his time to go. While some of the memories weren't always pleasant, having some sort of connection to my past meant a lot.
When my kid gets back, I'm sure the first thing she'll do is apologize for not telling me and making me worry but I will play it cool. Knowing her as I do, I'm also pretty sure she will feel bad enough for her oversight (or obfuscation) without me ragging about it.
As far as my ex old man buying me a new battery, I would feel bad because he's already doing so much. He turned the house we used to live in when we were married into an auto shop/parts warehouse full of tools and equipment then pretty much walked away from it all about 15 years ago when he got remarried and moved in with his new wife.
When things went south for me a while back, he cleaned out one room and made one of the bathrooms functional and let me move in there rather than be homeless. He even spent thousands of dollars putting a new heat pump/AC unit on the roof and paid off the $1200 court judgment against me when I was evicted. I've been living there among the clutter and machinery rent free for three years in January and I actually like it here. As destroyed as it is inside as houses go, all together I've lived in this house for 15 years and that's longer than I've ever lived anywhere so it feels like home. If he volunteers to pay for the battery I won't say no but I'm for sure not asking for him to.
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