10-17-2022, 04:18 AM
The pregnancy of my daughter's birth mother was unplanned and unwanted so when she was born, I basically stepped in and took over and was a full time stay at home parent for her first two years of her life. After that I was forced to move out and not being able to take that precious sweet girl with me was the hardest thing I've ever done in my life but I was able to have her every weekend and during vacations and we were always very close.
When she was 12, she came to live with my then husband and I full time until she was 18 and moved out to live with her boyfriend and future husband. She barely spoke to her other mom during this time and often used me as a go-between. Even later in life, she always came to me first with things like getting pregnant or leaving her husband with the expectation that I would pass the news along to her other parent as there was always distance between them.
Now the tables have turned which I think is only fair and she has the relationship with her "real" mom she never had and I'm honestly happy for the both of them to see that but I won't deny it smarts a little in some ways. I'll get over it. I know I'm not any less important to her and am just being overly sensitive about being kept in the dark about her trip.
Talking about this has been cathartic in some ways. Thanks for letting me get it out of my system. I'm even happier learning a little bit ago that my ex-hubby is coming over tomorrow and taking me to the store to get a new battery for my car. Now if I can just get him to pay for it too! Lol
When she was 12, she came to live with my then husband and I full time until she was 18 and moved out to live with her boyfriend and future husband. She barely spoke to her other mom during this time and often used me as a go-between. Even later in life, she always came to me first with things like getting pregnant or leaving her husband with the expectation that I would pass the news along to her other parent as there was always distance between them.
Now the tables have turned which I think is only fair and she has the relationship with her "real" mom she never had and I'm honestly happy for the both of them to see that but I won't deny it smarts a little in some ways. I'll get over it. I know I'm not any less important to her and am just being overly sensitive about being kept in the dark about her trip.
Talking about this has been cathartic in some ways. Thanks for letting me get it out of my system. I'm even happier learning a little bit ago that my ex-hubby is coming over tomorrow and taking me to the store to get a new battery for my car. Now if I can just get him to pay for it too! Lol
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