Are We Getting Worse As Humans?

[NightskyeB4Dawn]

We, as humans, have such a great capacity for love, art, creativity, forgiveness.

And we spend most of our time hating.

I was not ever a "hugger".

Hated human contact.

But my wife, a true pacifist, always hugs.

In our home, we hug our children, I am always hugging my bride.

The world may go insane, but we have a small corner of sanity and love.

Yeah, I come from the huggiest, kissiest family you ever want to meet. There are 5 girls and 5 boys, and none of us have every met a stranger. The rules are the same in all of our homes. Your first visit you are a honored guest, all visits after that, you are family and you get no special treatment. Mi Casa Es Su Casa all around.

Now I don't agree with you that the majority of people spend all their time hating. To tell you the truth, I can't think of anyone that I hate. I do remember a guy I dated a gazillion years ago, that tired to control me with fear. Well that didn't go too well for him, so he tried assault. That turned out even worse, because that fear and submission he was looking for, turned into seething anger, and it was about as close as I ever got to hate.

It was at that time that I realized I did not have the energy, or the time, to spend giving so much of myself to someone that wasn't worth a single second of my life. I don't hate. I feel sadness, frustration, anger, dislike, distrust, repugnance, revulsion, but not hate. What is the difference? All the other emotions involve a pulling away, a distancing, from you and the other person. Hate to me is a giving in, it seems to pull you toward the person you dislike. Hate sucks something out of you. Something that I am not willing to give. Something that even scares me.