04-20-2022, 05:16 AM
(This post was last modified: 04-20-2022, 05:23 AM by Michigan Swamp Buck.
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This may seem harsh, but our tears are for us, not the dearly departed.
I did have a pretty good breakdown around Mother's Day a few years ago. I got so angry and jealous with my GF and everyone else who had plans to visit their mothers because I couldn't as my mom had passed away a few years before that. I allowed that lost and heart broken child to cry out for his mother who is gone, but only after my GF forced me to come to grips with my feelings. I didn't want to share that with her, but she threatened to leave me so I had to try and make her understand that frightened, lonely and incredibly sad little boy inside of me. I guess she understood, she's still with me, even though I got no sympathy from her that day. I know when her mom passes, she will be destroyed emotionally and it's unlikely I will be able to do enough to support her though it. I know that will test our relationship to the max, could even end it if it got intense enough.
It would have to be someone really close emotionally and it would have to be a tragic death to be extreme grief for me, but I wouldn't hold on to it and I'd get tired, both physically and emotionally, of dealing with others who are still grief stricken if they don't let go.
I wouldn't say an over dose victim deserves to die, that's a tragic death, plus that's a horrible and hurtful thing to say about anyone. Also, if I had to console a close friend or relative, that could get intense enough to make me cry and feel overwhelming feelings. Your situation sounds pretty stressful and a death in the family is stress enough, I hope you can resolve this before it becomes worse.
I did have a pretty good breakdown around Mother's Day a few years ago. I got so angry and jealous with my GF and everyone else who had plans to visit their mothers because I couldn't as my mom had passed away a few years before that. I allowed that lost and heart broken child to cry out for his mother who is gone, but only after my GF forced me to come to grips with my feelings. I didn't want to share that with her, but she threatened to leave me so I had to try and make her understand that frightened, lonely and incredibly sad little boy inside of me. I guess she understood, she's still with me, even though I got no sympathy from her that day. I know when her mom passes, she will be destroyed emotionally and it's unlikely I will be able to do enough to support her though it. I know that will test our relationship to the max, could even end it if it got intense enough.
It would have to be someone really close emotionally and it would have to be a tragic death to be extreme grief for me, but I wouldn't hold on to it and I'd get tired, both physically and emotionally, of dealing with others who are still grief stricken if they don't let go.
I wouldn't say an over dose victim deserves to die, that's a tragic death, plus that's a horrible and hurtful thing to say about anyone. Also, if I had to console a close friend or relative, that could get intense enough to make me cry and feel overwhelming feelings. Your situation sounds pretty stressful and a death in the family is stress enough, I hope you can resolve this before it becomes worse.